Can men & women be "Just friends"?

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Something I've always wondered.



Do you think that an attractive male can have an attractive female as his bud or vice versa?
May sound shallow, but all of my female "just friends" are either unattractive to me or we've tried to make it work before and it was a mess.


What about you guys?



And f*ck that movie with Justin Timberlake :)
 
Yeah! I have plenty of attractive females that are just good friends of mine that I've never tried to start something with them!

And they're hella cool too.
 
Why can't they be friends? The hot girlfriends I have are usually taken. Of course I would be banging them If they didn't have boyfriends. Even if they do I really do not care :)

I have slept with all my attractive girlfriends/in the process of trying to. Sounds so much cooler on the internet!
 
I had plenty of female friends, and I actually never really tried anything with them. Now that's not to say I would have pushed them away if one had shown up naked at my door, but seeing as that never occurred that wasn't a bridge I've ever had to cross.

Also that Justin Timberlake movie gave us Mila Kunis in various states of undress so in my book it should win the Oscar for Best Picture.
 
yes i think its ok to be just friends with a girl, but if they have boyfriends then thats what makes this topic a big deal. the trick is to be friends with the guy as well as the girl.
 
I've had female friends that I never tried to start anything with... though in my case I met most of them after I'd already met my wife.

And if I were single, I must say it'd be hard not to at least think about it....
 
Yes, totally possible.

That is, unless you're not the average "I wanna be a playa", wannabe Alpha who only sees women as possible sex partners. I have a few guy friends who are 'just friends'. But, I pick my company very carefully. Guys of the aforementioned category are almost instantly out, because they're losers in my book, even if I were looking for a guy. Besides, I have to be good, good friends with someone before even considering getting with them in any kind of romantic/physical/non-platonic capacity, male or female.

I should add that I know plenty of awesome guys, who not because they're unattractive or taken or anything like that, I wouldn't ever go out with simply because I know it would never work/they aren't really my type. That's not a problem or something they should be ashamed of or anything. Some people make a perfect friendship, like chocolate and marshmallows in a s'more, but as partners are oil and water. Same goes for girls, actually.
 
Of course they can. I have some female friends that are totally beautiful and attractive but I would never try to date them. I don't know how it is for others, but for me it's like a feeling when I know I will never date this person even if she's the most attractive.
 
I would be lying if I never considered, but usually something about them or the circumstances tell it's me not going to work. Besides, there is more to a relationship than simply physical beauty, such as trust and respect for one another.
 
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I've actually been having this problem lately. Every guy I meet seem to try to hit on me or something. Common on xbl. They don't even ask if I'm in a relationship or what(which I actually am). Not all guys are like this there are actually some respectful ones, but they're not easy to come by. At least not from my experience. I only have a very few female friends and those are the ones I grew up with so I'm used to having guy friends.
 
Off course. On the other hand i personally think most of humanity mostly associate themselves with people they find physically attractive, or someone who is not to them and can be a safety net so to speak, someone they can talk to without fear of any sex or other things taking place, simply as they are not on their level. The safety net so to speak may remain friends with them but secretly have desires for them, while never disclosing them.

I think its alot easier for women to have friend only relationships with men as it is me to women, due to the fact that most men would probably fantasize or not turn down sex or relationships with a female friend, all though not admit it to a female friend creating a illusion of real friendship.

I also think age has alot to do with it. When you are younger i found i had more female friends, the ones ive met since been in my twenties have to be fair only been in a relationship unless im not attracted to them, then they are friends.

You can be friends its not impossible, just can be hard. Also it should not really have much though into it, as everyone is different, there is no written rules or text on how it works or patterns in behavior. Relationships aren't rocket science, they either work or don't. Same with friendships.
 
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No.
If they are attractive, then why would you just want to be friends?
Unless you dig ugly chicks or dudes, or something, you know?
You can start off as friends but the more you find you have in common=more interest you will develop.
 
TaBB3rnackle92 said:
No.
If they are attractive, then why would you just want to be friends?
Unless you dig ugly chicks or dudes, or something, you know?
You can start off as friends but the more you find you have in common=more interest you will develop.
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my pony brotha's right. I had a lady friend she and I had a fantastic relationship the more I got to know her the more feelings started to develop and the more I was tempted to spoil it by telling her how I felt. It's not so much if they can be friends. It's if they can have that type of relationship and still be friends after it's all said and done. In my experience it has never worked out that way.
 
AMES32 said:
my pony brotha's right. I had a lady friend she and I had a fantastic relationship the more I got to know her the more feelings started to develop and the more I was tempted to spoil it by telling her how I felt. It's not so much if they can be friends. It's if they can have that type of relationship and still be friends after it's all said and done. In my experience it has never worked out that way.
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One always gets the hots for the other at some point.

So no.
 
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