Depression

[Jade]

My friend (and co-worker) complains about shit at work all the time....I just go to work, do what I gotta do, and then go home. Almost every single day, there are people standing around, doing nothing but talking, while I work like mad to get done what I need to get done. I have never once complained to my supervisor because, well, I just don't care what other people are doing. My work will show in the end and their lack of working will catch up to them in the worst way.

I just never understood complaining about things like that....people are standing around shooting the shit....so? They may not get caught today, tomorrow, or next week, your boss may not care.....but something, someday, will come up and bite them in the ass so just do what you gotta do and let fate happen.

She gets all stressed out and then starts to hate life...I tell her to just forget about them and do her work and I will help her.

Anyways, I think people take too much for granted and that is why it seems easier to get 'depressed' over things that shouldn't really matter....people fail to look at the big picture....like how some people get all wired up because they have to give a presentation....using this as an example because I used to be VERY shy, to the point where I would skip class if I knew we had to do a presentation...I am a loudmouth now (life is way more fun =) ) but, had I had the same thought process then that I do now, I would think 'really, what is the worst that can happen? People don't like my presentation? K....I mess up? K.....who cares?' Something like that is not the end of the world and, if anything embarrassing happens, people will forget it in a week so who gives a shit....life goes on....and too many people get depressed over dumb things that they don't need to get depressed over, they just need to take a moment to think of what's the worst that can happen and how to solve the problem.

 

[Sky Valley]

I view this thread as "I don't give a shit about your problem, but you should care about mine because it's a real problem".

not really this thread, I'm refferring to just everyday life and the lack of generosity in the world. But I'm glad you understand what I mean and agree.

And yes it is true, certain people have had to deal with more shit than others. That's life. But I think more people should use their misfortune and knowledge, and turn it around into something positive, rather than keeping it to themselves just for the sake of having it to prove something that isn't usefull to anyone else other than themselves.



Now to something else that's on my mind. Which is that some people wouldnt want to have things turn around in their own life anyway. They enjoy their flawed status because it brings them a feeling of power and respect that they couldnt achieve as a happy person who lives an average life .

maybe this is getting a bit too personal, as I had almost the same case between me and a childhood friend. Me and him grew up with the same set of ideas, we were alike in every way. We were always the quite kids, and eventually we were also the ones more prone to becoming depressed. By the time we were both in late high school,we were both very depressing people. Both of us not wanting to give up being depressed for different and stupid reasons.

Me not wanting to let go of being depressed because I had a clouded mindset that if I were to change, I would be living a lie and it was who I was to be a sad person. My friend on the other hand, like I mentioned earlier, fed off his depression and used it as an excuse to get things that he wanted. And he still never really changed to this day either. It's really sad, but thats just how it is.

 

[Critical-Limit]

My friend (and co-worker) complains about shit at work all the time....I just go to work, do what I gotta do, and then go home. Almost every single day, there are people standing around, doing nothing but talking, while I work like mad to get done what I need to get done. I have never once complained to my supervisor because, well, I just don't care what other people are doing. My work will show in the end and their lack of working will catch up to them in the worst way.

I just never understood complaining about things like that....people are standing around shooting the shit....so? They may not get caught today, tomorrow, or next week, your boss may not care.....but something, someday, will come up and bite them in the ass so just do what you gotta do and let fate happen.

She gets all stressed out and then starts to hate life...I tell her to just forget about them and do her work and I will help her.

Anyways, I think people take too much for granted and that is why it seems easier to get 'depressed' over things that shouldn't really matter....people fail to look at the big picture....like how some people get all wired up because they have to give a presentation....using this as an example because I used to be VERY shy, to the point where I would skip class if I knew we had to do a presentation...I am a loudmouth now (life is way more fun =) ) but, had I had the same thought process then that I do now, I would think 'really, what is the worst that can happen? People don't like my presentation? K....I mess up? K.....who cares?' Something like that is not the end of the world and, if anything embarrassing happens, people will forget it in a week so who gives a shit....life goes on....and too many people get depressed over dumb things that they don't need to get depressed over, they just need to take a moment to think of what's the worst that can happen and how to solve the problem.

Yes but Jade... when it's a team effort, Their laziness affects me. we all clock in and then clock out when work is done. We don't get raises because we as a team aren't productive enough.

Although you have a point, BECAUSE of my good work ethics I got a driver position, and now make triple the money than those warehouse guys. So... point taken... but I had to go through a year and a half of being held down by people around me, before it paid off.

I just don't like being taken advantage of.. i shouldn't be doing 35% of the work when there are freaking 18 OF US

for the record, when I became a driver.

They went from getting off at 11p.m., to getting off at 3a.m.

HMMMMM.... CRAZY for 1 guy to make a 4 hour difference.

 

[Jade]

Yes but Jade... when it's a team effort, Their laziness affects me. we all clock in and then clock out when work is done. We don't get raises because we as a team aren't productive enough.

Although you have a point, BECAUSE of my good work ethics I got a driver position, and now make triple the money than those warehouse guys. So... point taken... but I had to go through a year and a half of being held down by people around me, before it paid off.

I just don't like being taken advantage of.. i shouldn't be doing 35% of the work when there are freaking 18 OF US

for the record, when I became a driver.

They went from getting off at 11p.m., to getting off at 3a.m.

HMMMMM.... CRAZY for 1 guy to make a 4 hour difference.

Trust me, I understand all of that, and we get paid gainshare for the numbers we put out, but I just don't find it worthy of my time to get angry at other people.....we are trying to fight to change our gainshare because it is calculated very ignorantly as a team thing when it should be individual, like where I used to work. If I am sweating my ass off daily, there is no reason why the lazy guy who talks all day should get the same amount of money as me.....but, I dunno, I tend to be the type of person who just clocks in, does my work, goes home, doesn't care about other people being lazy. As long as the work I do is accurate, I am happy. Obviously not the typical attitude of most people, as it is natural to get upset over people doing nothing while you work like a dog, but I don't let it bug me.

I get more opportunities than those guys do, and they get jealous....which makes me smile even more, because it is satisfying to me when people stop talking to me just because I got a raise and better things to do, lol. I got a raise last Friday and one of the girls I work with doesn't talk to me at all....she is a very jealous person by nature and the raise just put her over the line. Don't really care because it wasn't like we were friends, but, still, that just makes me feel even better to know being a success bugs others. Ain't my fault I wasn't the one talking all day instead of working =)

 

[Critical-Limit]

Trust me, I understand all of that, and we get paid gainshare for the numbers we put out, but I just don't find it worthy of my time to get angry at other people.....we are trying to fight to change our gainshare because it is calculated very ignorantly as a team thing when it should be individual, like where I used to work. If I am sweating my ass off daily, there is no reason why the lazy guy who talks all day should get the same amount of money as me.....but, I dunno, I tend to be the type of person who just clocks in, does my work, goes home, doesn't care about other people being lazy. As long as the work I do is accurate, I am happy. Obviously not the typical attitude of most people, as it is natural to get upset over people doing nothing while you work like a dog, but I don't let it bug me.

I get more opportunities than those guys do, and they get jealous....which makes me smile even more, because it is satisfying to me when people stop talking to me just because I got a raise and better things to do, lol. I got a raise last Friday and one of the girls I work with doesn't talk to me at all....she is a very jealous person by nature and the raise just put her over the line. Don't really care because it wasn't like we were friends, but, still, that just makes me feel even better to know being a success bugs others. Ain't my fault I wasn't the one talking all day instead of working =)

Well you got a strong attitude to be able to handle it like that everyday, you go girl. Don't get me wrong I didn't lose sleep over it, and I didn't cry about it daily. Although I did make it clear to them how I felt about their work habits.(most of it was my cynical mind seeing selfishness everywhere and it bugs me. I'm weak to that kind of stuff)

 

[Jade]

I used to care about a lot of things in high school (like what people thought of me, etc.). Not sure what triggered me to change my way of thinking but I just thought one day 'who gives a ****?' once I started working. It just sort of grew from there. I mean, I care about the obvious things in life, of course, but I spend 8-12 hours, 5 days a week at work.....I have lots of fun when not thinking about the negatives so I just ignore it. Screw 'em, the more people standing around doing nothing while I work, the better I look to the bosses as an employee.

 

[Nasty_Freak]

Oh gosh, I get depressed and anxious when I don't do well in a lot of things I need to do such as tests. Like today.

 

[BBBLP]

Its very hard for me to get depressed since I am a man of logic and always think of ways to make things seem better than they are.
But once in a blue moon, I just get hit with the most dreadful feeling of gloom. Everything seems duller, things that made me smile just piss me off and people that get anywhere near me get snapped at. But the absolute worst thing about it is that I can't explain or understand why it happens. No tragic event happens, no self pity, just a general feeling of despair. I often think of suicide in these moments. Not because I feel sorry for myself, but just because the mental strain of this phenomena is unbearable.

 

[Nasty_Freak]

I also get depressed when certain amount of people are bias against me.

 

[Kzaoo]

I've been feeling quite down lately. Its just because I don't want to grow up yet, the idea of becoming a responsible adult frightens me. I don't feel like i'm ready to grow up. I don't want to grow up, but I guess I have to because I don't have a choice. It feels really.... forced. I also miss my family, but i'll get to visit them in about 3 months so that is making me feel a bit better. Also my girlfriend and I broke up recently and I miss her like crazy. I guess we all go through kinda rough times and mine have been far from the worst so far so I guess i'm grateful for that.

 

[ninja]

people in here seem to not know the difference between an officially acknowledged mental illness and love life or school problems. jesus people, what the hell?

 

[Critical-Limit]

people in here seem to not know the difference between an officially acknowledged mental illness and love life or school problems. jesus people, what the hell?

I think people know the difference, But the word is used for both scenarios.

 

[ninja]

I think people know the difference, But the word is used for both scenarios.

why yes, I'm sure lines like 'I was depressed over a girl' totally show people know the difference. seriously, what the HELL? depression is officially an illness, a mental one, it needs to be treated and watched over carefully by doctors and it sure as hell has no connection whatsoever with one's love life problems or school issues. jesus christ, I'm freaking stunned by some replies in this thread

 

[Love Cowboy]

why yes, I'm sure lines like 'I was depressed over a girl' totally show people know the difference. seriously, what the HELL? depression is officially an illness, a mental one, it needs to be treated and watched over carefully by doctors and it sure as hell has no connection whatsoever with one's love life problems or school issues. jesus christ, I'm freaking stunned by some replies in this thread

Nonetheless, the word is still used for both scenarios and no one seems to have a problem with this thread dealing with those types of issues except you.

 

[ninja]

Nonetheless, the word is still used for both scenarios and no one seems to have a problem with this thread dealing with those types of issues except you.

I do mind because a) using the word DEPRESSION for petty issues like being dumped shows stupidity and also extreme weakness, and b) people not knowing what depression REALLY is, shows illiteracy, which I mind as well.

petty issues are dealt with by changing your very approach, not ****ing pills and being watched by a psychiatrist. know the freaking difference. things like this piss me off because tons of people basically talk shit out of their mouths without having their facts straight. the other day I was trying to explain to someone how obesity is actually a disease, just like cancer, just like HIV, just like freaking lupus, it's OFFICIALLY acknowledged in the medical world as a disease, hence, I was trying to show him making fun of obese people is like going to an anorexic girl and being like 'LOL you look like a skeleton'. if all this stupid behavior of people which is massive doesn't bother you, then that says a lot about you and your intelligence, not me.

 

[BBBLP]

why yes, I'm sure lines like 'I was depressed over a girl' totally show people know the difference. seriously, what the HELL? depression is officially an illness, a mental one, it needs to be treated and watched over carefully by doctors and it sure as hell has no connection whatsoever with one's love life problems or school issues. jesus christ, I'm freaking stunned by some replies in this thread

Even if you wanted to be a medical snob about this, love loss and financial stress can lead to depressive feelings in people.

 

[BBBLP]

I do mind because a) using the word DEPRESSION for petty issues like being dumped shows stupidity and also extreme weakness, and b) people not knowing what depression REALLY is, shows illiteracy, which I mind as well.

A) I've been depressed over losing a girl. She wasn't just some bitch I could get over. She was a woman that I still cannot get out of my mind. One that I compare every single girl I'm with nowadays. If thats petty then you've never truly been in love.

B) How about you not knowing what polysemes are? Depression has multiple meanings, not just the medical term. It can also just mean deep sadness. Cancer isn't just a disease and a c0ck is a helluva lot more than just a bird.

 

[ninja]

Even if you wanted to be a medical snob about this, love loss and financial stress can lead to depressive feelings in people.

death of your partner, sure. being dumped by a girlfriend at teenage is no reason for depression, oh my GOD. as for financial stress, which I didn't even mention actually, I come from a family where we had extreme difficulties , guess what though, we pay our debts because of good management, unlike others who are in no position to spend first on a new plasma tv and not worry about FOOD but do it anyway and end up with tons of debt. it's all about what you can do and how much clarity of mind you have to be strong. I've lost tons of family members and I WAS depressed, that was DEATH, people need to realize bitching about a freaking girlfriend is petty. either she didnt want you in the first place, therefore move the **** on, or she found someone better for her needs, physical or mental, so move the **** on as well. in both cases she didn't want you for whatever reason, a couple consists of two, therefore find another partner, not a partner that doesn't want you. also, people need to realize that while they bitch about such issues , there are TONS of others out there who live HELL daily because they lack food, water, a roof over their head, medical attention and they gotta wake up daily , work their asses off to find as much food as possible and just SURVIVE. so no, the person whose gf dumped him because she found someone else she liked better has absolutely no ****ing right to call himself depressed due to it. it's weakness of character to see petty things so tragic and it's not rocket science to calculate that if you're 18 and a girl dumped you, you'll meet another 56165516545 girls who will be much better than this one throughout your entire life. jesus.

 

[ninja]

A) I've been depressed over losing a girl. She wasn't just some bitch I could get over. She was a woman that I still cannot get out of my mind. One that I compare every single girl I'm with nowadays. If thats petty then you've never truly been in love.

B) How about you not knowing what polysemes are? Depression has multiple meanings, not just the medical term. It can also just mean deep sadness. Cancer isn't just a disease and a c0ck is a helluva lot more than just a bird.

A) you won't get her out of your head, she was/is a part of you life. that's logical. and you have no idea what my love life is, so you can't tell or judge if I have been truly in love. long story short, you (both of you) didn't make it work so the best thing is let go and move on.

B) I do know my science and whatnot so thanks but no thanks on polysemes info. also, words can many times be much stronger than you'd think so again, using the word depression even as for deep sadness makes no sense for teenage issues. seriously, I'm not saying anything irrational here, say you're a teen and lonely at school. well make some ****ing friends, you're the new kid, YOU have to take the first step. jesus, it's not that hard

 

[BBBLP]

t's all about what you can do and how much clarity of mind you have to be strong. I've lost tons of family members and I WAS depressed, that was DEATH, people need to realize bitching about a freaking girlfriend is petty. either she didnt want you in the first place, therefore move the **** on, or she found someone better for her needs, physical or mental, so move the **** on as well. in both cases she didn't want you for whatever reason, a couple consists of two, therefore find another partner, not a partner that doesn't want you.

You don't know every couple's troubles so don't act like you do.
Some shit hits you really hard, and when your dreams come crashing down on top of your expectations, depressed is a fitting word.

also, people need to realize that while they bitch about such issues , there are TONS of others out there who live HELL daily because they lack food, water, a roof over their head, medical attention and they gotta wake up daily , work their asses off to find as much food as possible and just SURVIVE.

I've always hated that argument. Its like I can't say anything negative because someone else has it worse.
There is always someone who has it worse than the next guy, doesn't mean complaining will ever stop.

so no, the person whose gf dumped him because she found someone else she liked better has absolutely no ****ing right to call himself depressed due to it. it's weakness of character to see petty things so tragic and it's not rocket science to calculate that if you're 18 and a girl dumped you, you'll meet another 56165516545 girls who will be much better than this one throughout your entire life. jesus.

Has no right to call himself depressed after losing the love of his life?
Who the hell made you the judge of that?
He probably will find one that is better, but until he does the thought of him losing the best one yet still looms in his mind.
Its human nature to see the negative more than the positive.

B) I do know my science and whatnot so thanks but no thanks on polysemes info. also, words can many times be much stronger than you'd think so again, using the word depression even as for deep sadness makes no sense for teenage issues.

But I really do think you need the info on polysemes though :laugh:

How does it not make sense for teenage issues?
Are teenagers not permitted to be sad?
Is that a right that comes packed in with the ability to buy cigarettes?

seriously, I'm not saying anything irrational here,

You're freaking out over people using a word in a way YOU do not think is right.
Again, polysemy, a word that has multiple meanings.