Depression

I can't help ya man I wasn't even depressed when my mom and dad divorced as a kid. In fact I was like "cool! Now I can have two houses and 2 sets of parents!)

They put me in some special class at school to help me "cope" when I was perfectly fine lol.

The closest thing I feel to being depressed is being stuck and unable to afford school.

The sooner you accept bull spit as bull spit the sooner you can care less about it.
 
FlawlessVictor said:
If you have the means to see a therapist, I would do that. There is no cure-all for depression as it affects people in different ways. A therapist can tailor strategies to cope with your depression. They can give you strategies to cope with your problems, and in some cases provide prescription for medication. Also, it provides a person you can talk to.
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anti depressants dont work
 
Havok said:
anti depressants dont work
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They do not miraculously make your problems go away, they just level things off so it becomes easier to cope with your problems. You still got to do the work. Furthermore anti-depressants, like all drugs, affect people in different ways. It's about finding one that works for you.
 
FlawlessVictor said:
They do not miraculously make your problems go away, they just level things off so it becomes easier to cope with your problems. You still got to do the work. Furthermore anti-depressants, like all drugs, affect people in different ways. It's about finding one that works for you.
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I'm not saying they don't work because they dont solve all your problems

after you take them for a while they will stop affecting you in any way

not to mention they might not be addictive but they do cause dependency
 
Havok said:
I'm not saying they don't work because they dont solve all your problems

after you take them for a while they will stop affecting you in any way

not to mention they might not be addictive but they do cause dependency
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Unfortunately, ALL drugs carry the risk of developing tolerance, nasty side effects, or dependency. Ideally, the medication is used make it easier for the patient to get of the "rock bottom" mindset and discontinue it (not cold turkey) when the patient becomes strong enough to pull him/herself together without the aid of medication.
 
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A few things:

Being alone with your thoughts can 'enhance' the drepressive feeling you have. You can try and distract yourself but dont just ignore what is causing these feelings. Seeing a doctor is always recommended when feeling depressed. Simple things like getting a good night sleep and eating properly can help but sometimes you may need medical help.

Depression isnt something to just let go, you need to monitor it and seek some advice from doctors.

During high school, i didnt really have any friends. Id hang around people but was never involved with them after school hours. When school finished they all moved away and i just had my woolworths job packing the freezer. I only worked 15 hours a week and my idea of a social life was getting mcdonalds on a saturday night. I pretty much did that for five years. It was a very lonely time and i dont know how i got throught it. But my lack of social life meant that after a few years i had enough money to put a deposit on a house. (all this from working at woolies!) although my schooling grades were pretty bad and i had no further education to show, buying a house gave me joy in the sense that i felt like id 'acheived' something.

Now im not saying, be a hermit, save money and buy a house, im saying see if there are little things you can do that feel like an acheivment, do them! Do a few different things like short courses and the like (im not sure of their availablity in your country).

The thing with depression is that its like mud, if you stand still then youll be stuck. You have to keep making steps in order to get out of the mud.

I remember when i had no social life, i used to go on the net and talk to random people (like trmk, or myspace). I found it enjoyable to talk to people with similar interests, and ending up becoming pen pals(internet pals really).
I thought nothing of it but just enjoyed the interaction with these people. In fact, thats how i met my gf. i was just looking to chat with people and we just seemed to get along well. we were friends for about three years before we even started dating. That was two years ago and now we are living together.

These dark days you have, alot of people will have been through the same. Obviously hidsight is a great thing but when your in the midst of depression it is hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel.

Trust me, that light is there, and youll be rid of that mud!
Use this time to write down a few things on what you want to do, and what you want to acheive.

Keep in touch with these trmk forums, it seems that this is an interest of yours so stick with it:)


(I congratulate you on coming on here and talking to us about it)
 
FlawlessVictor said:
Unfortunately, ALL drugs carry the risk of developing tolerance, nasty side effects, or dependency. Ideally, the medication is used make it easier for the patient to get of the "rock bottom" mindset and discontinue it (not cold turkey) when the patient becomes strong enough to pull him/herself together without the aid of medication.
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like I said they stop working and turning your life upside down aint easy and it takes time and those meds dont work enough time for someone to stop needing them not to mention

wait why are we always arguing?
 
I am forever alone, though I have found ways to force myself to be happy. Every day I find one way to make myself smile. Sometimes I listen to music, sometimes I watch a favorite movie, and sometimes I even treat myself to a snack from somewhere I love to eat. Channel what's bothering you into something positive and you'll feel far better. I'd have to say my outlook on life right now is better than its ever been.
 
Havok said:
like I said they stop working and turning your life upside down aint easy and it takes time and those meds dont work enough time for someone to stop needing them not to mention
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Drug sensitivity and tolerance building varies by individual. It can range from a month to a year for the drugs to lose their effect. Long-term use calls for management strategies to keep medication as a viable option. It can include but limited to increasing dosage, reducing the dosage, or switch to an alternate drug.

wait why are we always arguing?
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You challenged my views on the matter and I defend them. I don't see how this a issue personally.
 
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lifting your spirits is not the key to helping depression. if that was the case no one would be depressed. Depression is a chemical imbalance that needs medication to increase seratonin. you seriously need to talk with your parents, counselor or psychiatrist. its not something that will go away it will get worse. theres different types of depression and stages. Sadness is not depression, the 2 get mixed up. also stay away from alcohol/drugs as it will make it worse. please get help asap, this is your life we are talking about. it sounds cliche, but one pill can really give you your life back and end the pain/suffering. if you have any ? feel free to ask me.

also you could feel fine for some time but it will always hit again. its called "episodes" so just because you feel great trust me, its still there. see a doc asap
 
It took me forever to get out of the state I was in (it was about a girl.. obviously).
It kept eating away at my soul and my will to live (by the way, Marijuana does NOT help solve your problems.. you are 100% right, Aries)
until one day I was drawing and everything just fell into the right place.
I started to feel better, stopped smoking pot, and started living my life again.
I didn't need meds (I absolutely 100% can not stand taking pills. I don't take them for my "disorder" and I wont even take them for a headache) but sometimes I get down about "what could have been."
But if you are breathing, you are doing good.
Someone else has it worse, trust me on dat shit.
 
Not to tell you my entire life story, but yes I was extremely depressed in high school. Especially being openly gay. Because I was gay, many like to try to sabotage me in different ways. Teachers, students, and some people who even have superiority such as the superintendent of our school. I was already being bullied before I got in depression. What made me depressed was not only the betrayal of friends, but also me being fooled by someone that I thought wanted me as a lover. So what I did, was talk to someone who is really close to me and tell my frustrations about life. Just make sure you know who that someone is very well. Listening to good music is helpful too. Dance, work out, play games (but make sure you are mentally stable when you play games and not take anything so personally when things don't go your way), and any other activity that you know would make you feel better. It would be lovely if you have a date with someone or if you even just get company to "get through the night". But be very careful not to trust a lot. Even until now, I'm still struggling here and there but I'm doing well and you should to. Oh, I also definitely recommend a therapist!!! That helps a lot. ;-)
 
Mental illness ain't fun. Here's what ya do: over-inflate your ego to the point of borderline narcissism. After awhile, YOU even start to believe you're a bada$$.
 
I think sometimes its good to take your attention off of yourself and go and help someone else out.Go help out at a homeless shelter or somethin like that and get your mind off of yourself.The feeling of doing something good is really rewarding.Sometimes it helps to not be so consumed in our on problems.
 
yesterday night, i was litterally crying my eyes out and now, today, i cant even remember why i was crying in the first place 0-0
 
Exemery said:
To be simple, I do not have the luxury to see my friends everyday, at most every month. And we dont go to the same schools.

And making friends in my school, well, is a lot harder than you guys would think(Quebec is a whole new place my friend, (I might as well tell you guys that I go to a french school as an American and I can no longer go to an english school due to some ******** law)).

The entire day Im always to myself and I do at times talk to my ONE friend in the school. All of my problems just stack onto my shoulders yet, I cannot find a way to express my anger because I always feel that I am the fault of all my problems and everything bad is always caused by me (might come from my dad's excessive scolding IDK). My future looks dim for me since, I probably won't graduate from high school (used to be a B student, now i can only manage Ds) and even if I do, the chances of making it into a CGEP (Quebec's alternative to universities) are even smaller. And now I am just the loser of my family.
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I'm more or less on the same situation as you. I have almost no friends at college. I thought I would fit there, I thought everyone doing computer science would be nerds like me. Well, they are, but I still don't fit among them.

I'm kinda introvert, and I find it really difficult to talk to people for the first time, to make friends, and so I basically don't talk to the people at college. The last friends I have are my mates from high school who study there too, but I don't have the luxury of seeing them everyday.

And knowing that this problem is all my fault just makes me feel worse. I feel like I fail on everything I try to do. And I have no one to talk about all this. My parents are not gonna be much helpful - my mom would probably simply tell me that it's all my fault and I should fix it, that I should begin expressing myself. My father would say some words to make me feel better, but wouldn't be much helpful.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've been reading some books that have been helpful, have made me feel better, but still, all I can see for me is a lonely, failed future.
 
VictorMefer said:
I'm more or less on the same situation as you. I have almost no friends at college. I thought I would fit there, I thought everyone doing computer science would be nerds like me. Well, they are, but I still don't fit among them.

I'm kinda introvert, and I find it really difficult to talk to people for the first time, to make friends, and so I basically don't talk to the people at college. The last friends I have are my mates from high school who study there too, but I don't have the luxury of seeing them everyday.

And knowing that this problem is all my fault just makes me feel worse. I feel like I fail on everything I try to do. And I have no one to talk about all this. My parents are not gonna be much helpful - my mom would probably simply tell me that it's all my fault and I should fix it, that I should begin expressing myself. My father would say some words to make me feel better, but wouldn't be much helpful.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've been reading some books that have been helpful, have made me feel better, but still, all I can see for me is a lonely, failed future.
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I'm sorry you feel this way, but blaming yourself and reminding yourself that it might be your fault won't help. Everyone has worries, but it's not worth beating yourself up about. You need to start talking to people. I know I make it sound easy, but I speak from experience when I say that being introverted and keeping everything to myself, it made me who I am today. I learned from my mistake of not talking to people, and now, I know that all I have to do is got up and say "Hi!"

You need to learn to do the same. I don't know if I helped or not. I'm just giving advice. People won't just tell you that you don't fit in or that they don't like you for no reason. Get to know the people around you. Try making some new friends to be around. You are not, nor will you ever be a failure. I hope that I helped. Good Luck! :)
 
Exemery said:
yesterday night, i was litterally crying my eyes out and now, today, i cant even remember why i was crying in the first place 0-0
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I would say that this is more-or-less healthy. Crying is a way to express your feelings, and to let go of anger, sadness, frustration, etc. It is also an excellent way to relieve stress. Don't over do it, though! ;)
 
FlawlessVictor said:
Drug sensitivity and tolerance building varies by individual. It can range from a month to a year for the drugs to lose their effect. Long-term use calls for management strategies to keep medication as a viable option. It can include but limited to increasing dosage, reducing the dosage, or switch to an alternate drug.



You challenged my views on the matter and I defend them. I don't see how this a issue personally.
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not saying it is it just gets old
 
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