Matt Wilson
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I've talked a lot about the immaturity of some players, ways of trying to make things less aggressive, and understanding the mindset behind 'spammers'.
But, I've noticed that I never once explained ways (or at least my ways) of dealing with those immature, rude people who insist on sending you messages, voice comments, or trash talking during mid-game that sometimes cross the line and go into the unnecessary territory of flaming someone for no reason. So to first understand how to deal with it, we must first understand why they do it in the first place.
As I stated before in a previous thread, there is no real reason for trash talk other than to vent frustration. Anyone whose played any online game (especially Call of Duty) will tell you that trash talk is essentially part of the competition. Some people are thick-skinned and can just take it, others are quick-witted and can come up with one-liners that put people quickly in their place. Then there are others who don't take it so well; they are either sensitive, or just play the game for recreation purposes and aren't out to look for enemies, and are either really good at the game or totally suck. Either way, dealing with foul-mouthed, rude people is an everyday things for the online community, so preventing it from happening is pretty much impossible. But, learning to deal with it may not only improve your game, but would help in preventing the demotivation of some players from continuing to play.
Most people trash talk, call people names, or just generally rip into people before, during, or after a match for one of two reasons. (There could be more, but I'll just state 2 to keep it simple.)
1: Nerd Rage. There's no better way to describe it. For those of you who don't know, Nerd Rage in the gaming community essentially means someone who rages over video games, period. Whether the spirit of competition either consumes or crushes them, or they are under the illusion that they have somehow been cheated out of victory, these people will pretty much fly off the handle and will most likely say mean, hurtful things during or after a match to vent out their anger in anyway possible. These are the people who can get down-right scary sometimes, because depending on their day, their match history, etc, their anger can fly off the handle and your message box will just explode.
2. The ****y People. Their arrogance knows no limits. Whether they believe themselves unbeatable, or maybe their play style is just simply better than yours in every way shape and form, they will never concede to defeat, and even if they did, it was still somehow your fault they lost in some mysterious way, and they are still better than you, period. They will most likely send you more arrogant messages like "Learn to play" or "Get some skill noob" etc, etc. Again, whether they win or lose, you'll still receive these messages because they are in denial of reality. Rather than accept defeat or a good game, they pump themselves up into believing their the best, and that's it.
There are a few ways of dealing with these two types of people, and I can't say there is a 'right' way of dealing with each problem, but here are a few tips for people who generally don't know how to deal with these kind of issues or people, and are looking for a calm, mature way of handling each situation.
Of course, the first thing that would come to each person's mind is to simply not respond at all. This is a good technique because you're not adding fuel to the fire; sometimes what these people are looking for is a response, any response, that will set them off and get them going. It's like any argument, sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.
This is also true when it comes to making excuses. When someone tries to trash talk you after a match, most people tend to make excuses for their errors whether their intentions are good or not. Either way, there is no right answer, and these people will tear into you no matter what. Again, avoid response, just go to the next match and forget about it. If they persist, just block/ignore them. That should get the message across that you're not interested in what crap they have to say.
Of course, if the situation ever gets serious enough (i.e. threats) then reporting them is always the best option. Sometimes these people need to learn that their trash talk can only go so far before it crosses the line, and they need to learn the consequences of their actions; if they can, that is.
But let's say you're a more stand-offish person. 'Turning the other cheek' or 'Ignoring them' isn't really you're style; you prefer to stand up to these people and put them in their place. Although it's not the best idea, in that regard you can do it the right way. With the response of "Dude, it's just a game, relax." or something of that nature may or may not work, sometimes people will realize how dumb it is to nerd rage over a game....or it will make them even more mad. It's a 50/50 shot, but if they are the arrogant ones, then try challenging them to a rematch. Make things more interesting; pick a random character, or a secondary character that's not your main. Continue to beat them, ignore their trash talk, and soon they'll learn that all their shit talk is just that...talk. All bark and no bite, because at the end of the day, you're skill is the only thing that matters, and they'll have to realize that whether they want to or not.
Remember, keep the trash talk at your end at a minimum. If you want to be the more mature, grown-up person in these scenarios, you'll come to notice that keeping a cool head and having a modest approach to most matches will make all the difference in the world when facing a troll, whether its to retain your own dignity or shatter their pride. Either way, I think that's the right thing to do.
But of course, there are those who relish in trash talk. Those who, if they havent sent out a crude message themselves, will be more than happy to respond with their own witty comebacks for the sake of never backing down. This is most people's approach, and although it may make you feel good for the most part (depending on your personality), it's the wrong approach because you're doing nothing but fanning the flames. Rather than deal with it on a more respectful level, you've decided to lower yourself down to their level, because you don't want to take their crap and you believe you're better than them, so what difference does it make if they cry or not, right? I wouldn't suggest this approach at all, but I wont stop you, since only you know what can make you happy and feel comfortable.
Final thoughts: It's just a game. Everyone says it, but no one really takes the times to think about it. Whether you win or lose, there's always another match waiting for you, another opponent to face. Stopping everything to focus your anger on one person doesn't help anything; it slows you down, and gives you bad judgement, which leads to poor gameplay, which leads to more rage, and a vicious cycle. If you find yourself really annoyed or angry, just take a break, relax, then come back. No sense in playing poorly and hurting someone's feelings at the same time.
But, I've noticed that I never once explained ways (or at least my ways) of dealing with those immature, rude people who insist on sending you messages, voice comments, or trash talking during mid-game that sometimes cross the line and go into the unnecessary territory of flaming someone for no reason. So to first understand how to deal with it, we must first understand why they do it in the first place.
As I stated before in a previous thread, there is no real reason for trash talk other than to vent frustration. Anyone whose played any online game (especially Call of Duty) will tell you that trash talk is essentially part of the competition. Some people are thick-skinned and can just take it, others are quick-witted and can come up with one-liners that put people quickly in their place. Then there are others who don't take it so well; they are either sensitive, or just play the game for recreation purposes and aren't out to look for enemies, and are either really good at the game or totally suck. Either way, dealing with foul-mouthed, rude people is an everyday things for the online community, so preventing it from happening is pretty much impossible. But, learning to deal with it may not only improve your game, but would help in preventing the demotivation of some players from continuing to play.
Most people trash talk, call people names, or just generally rip into people before, during, or after a match for one of two reasons. (There could be more, but I'll just state 2 to keep it simple.)
1: Nerd Rage. There's no better way to describe it. For those of you who don't know, Nerd Rage in the gaming community essentially means someone who rages over video games, period. Whether the spirit of competition either consumes or crushes them, or they are under the illusion that they have somehow been cheated out of victory, these people will pretty much fly off the handle and will most likely say mean, hurtful things during or after a match to vent out their anger in anyway possible. These are the people who can get down-right scary sometimes, because depending on their day, their match history, etc, their anger can fly off the handle and your message box will just explode.
2. The ****y People. Their arrogance knows no limits. Whether they believe themselves unbeatable, or maybe their play style is just simply better than yours in every way shape and form, they will never concede to defeat, and even if they did, it was still somehow your fault they lost in some mysterious way, and they are still better than you, period. They will most likely send you more arrogant messages like "Learn to play" or "Get some skill noob" etc, etc. Again, whether they win or lose, you'll still receive these messages because they are in denial of reality. Rather than accept defeat or a good game, they pump themselves up into believing their the best, and that's it.
There are a few ways of dealing with these two types of people, and I can't say there is a 'right' way of dealing with each problem, but here are a few tips for people who generally don't know how to deal with these kind of issues or people, and are looking for a calm, mature way of handling each situation.
Of course, the first thing that would come to each person's mind is to simply not respond at all. This is a good technique because you're not adding fuel to the fire; sometimes what these people are looking for is a response, any response, that will set them off and get them going. It's like any argument, sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all.
This is also true when it comes to making excuses. When someone tries to trash talk you after a match, most people tend to make excuses for their errors whether their intentions are good or not. Either way, there is no right answer, and these people will tear into you no matter what. Again, avoid response, just go to the next match and forget about it. If they persist, just block/ignore them. That should get the message across that you're not interested in what crap they have to say.
Of course, if the situation ever gets serious enough (i.e. threats) then reporting them is always the best option. Sometimes these people need to learn that their trash talk can only go so far before it crosses the line, and they need to learn the consequences of their actions; if they can, that is.
But let's say you're a more stand-offish person. 'Turning the other cheek' or 'Ignoring them' isn't really you're style; you prefer to stand up to these people and put them in their place. Although it's not the best idea, in that regard you can do it the right way. With the response of "Dude, it's just a game, relax." or something of that nature may or may not work, sometimes people will realize how dumb it is to nerd rage over a game....or it will make them even more mad. It's a 50/50 shot, but if they are the arrogant ones, then try challenging them to a rematch. Make things more interesting; pick a random character, or a secondary character that's not your main. Continue to beat them, ignore their trash talk, and soon they'll learn that all their shit talk is just that...talk. All bark and no bite, because at the end of the day, you're skill is the only thing that matters, and they'll have to realize that whether they want to or not.
Remember, keep the trash talk at your end at a minimum. If you want to be the more mature, grown-up person in these scenarios, you'll come to notice that keeping a cool head and having a modest approach to most matches will make all the difference in the world when facing a troll, whether its to retain your own dignity or shatter their pride. Either way, I think that's the right thing to do.
But of course, there are those who relish in trash talk. Those who, if they havent sent out a crude message themselves, will be more than happy to respond with their own witty comebacks for the sake of never backing down. This is most people's approach, and although it may make you feel good for the most part (depending on your personality), it's the wrong approach because you're doing nothing but fanning the flames. Rather than deal with it on a more respectful level, you've decided to lower yourself down to their level, because you don't want to take their crap and you believe you're better than them, so what difference does it make if they cry or not, right? I wouldn't suggest this approach at all, but I wont stop you, since only you know what can make you happy and feel comfortable.
Final thoughts: It's just a game. Everyone says it, but no one really takes the times to think about it. Whether you win or lose, there's always another match waiting for you, another opponent to face. Stopping everything to focus your anger on one person doesn't help anything; it slows you down, and gives you bad judgement, which leads to poor gameplay, which leads to more rage, and a vicious cycle. If you find yourself really annoyed or angry, just take a break, relax, then come back. No sense in playing poorly and hurting someone's feelings at the same time.
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Most casual players think when you use your special moves alot you are spamming lmao. THEY ARE IN THE GAME TO USE THEM DERP. every character has different tools and some players need to rely on their special moves whilst some do not as much (johhny cage). come to think of it i think he called me a spammer cuz everytime he'd try to jump in i'd use the flamethrower on him..it would look like spamming to a noob..but they keep jumping in..so ITS YOUR FAULT FOR JUMPING INTO IT. Other players believe spamming is when THEY mess up by over teleporting with kung lao (or raiden) and you uppercut them everytime you predict their teleport. STOP BEING SO PREDICTABLE AND I WONT UPPERCUT YOU DERP. that is all, thanks for listening 
