Kryptonite said:
I don't have anything against virgins, but it's bullshit when they try to force their beliefs/morals onto those who do not share them. If you want to stay a virgin, I guess more power to you.
In other words, it's ok for Krypt to express his disapproval of your expression of morals/beliefs, but it's not ok for you to do the same to him, so knock it off.
Kryptonite said:
It's just much better to do it all now while you're still young, or you're just going to do it all when you're older and when you should be settled down (and yes, this is supported by stats as well).
Not that I doubt your recollections, but I'd really,
really like to see these statistics, preferably published somewhere, either on paper or electronically.
Kryptonite said:
If you're even a semi-attractive person, I'm sure your spouse would be more secure if you did have a past since it's a "been there done that so it's old to me now" type thing rather than if you've never done anything before.
I would say this is more likely in a relationship in which two people have already "sewn their wild oats" and moved on, because they understand each other, whereas an "untamed past" in one partner might make another partner with a relatively "tame past" insecure. And all of that is only if what you're saying is at all true, which I'm quite sure it isn't. There are just as many stories of men or women with modest pasts maturing into modest lives as there are of men or women with wild pasts who aren't able to obtain any satisfaction ever, as there are of people like you.
Kryptonite said:
The way I gather it, you would have had sex with him if he married you. That's pretty selfish of you, no? Unless your marriage is pre-arranged and you have no say in it either way, sexual relations is a vital part of a relationship since it brings the couple closer.
I know this wasn't directed at me, but let's consider for a moment what's more selfish here: holding onto your convictions, even if it means telling someone to get their jollies elsewhere, or begging and whining and pressing for someone to have sex with you, even if it means asking them to compromise said convictions, all for what ultimately amounts to nothing meaningful?